As a relationship progresses, it can be difficult to find ways to keep things interesting. We all fall into patterns in our lives; the same restaurants, the same vacations, and the same dates. After a while, we begin to associate the feelings of being in a rut with the person we are with, even if they are not the reason things got stale.
If you want to help your relationship stay fresh, consider bringing in some excitement. It doesn’t have to be anything extreme (no skydiving required), but it does need to be new. The simple act of exploring something new together can help translate those feelings of excitement and wonder to each other. Over time, these small actions can help keep a relationship strong.
Consider these tips for finding new activities to try and see if your relationship doesn’t feel more inspiring in the end.
Try a New Place
A simple way to bring something new into your relationship is to find a place to which neither of you have been. This way, you can go for the first time together. It can be as simple as trying a new restaurant instead of going to your normal haunts, or planning a vacation to a country you both have wanted to visit.
Allow your trip to be part planned, and part spontaneous. While you may have to arrange your schedules to make the trip possible, allow a level of spontaneity should something interesting catch your eye along the way.
Being exposed to new places, the associated sights, smells, and sounds, can be exciting in and of itself. By experiencing it together, you are creating a common experience based on mutual exploration. Plus, you will have someone to reminisce with that may be just as excited to revisit the memories as you are.
Try a New Thing
One way to bring a sense of adventure into your relationship is to try a new activity. This can be as simple as taking a cooking class together to explore the nuisances of Cuban cuisine to trying your hand at flying the best drone you can get your hands on.
You don’t have to become a master at any of these new activities. In fact, you don’t even have to be particularly good. The point is just to experience these new things together, for better or worse, and for fun.
In order to keep things fair, it’s best to find activities with which neither of you have any previous experience, or where your starting level of experience is comparable. This helps limit the likelihood of frustration with one member of the couple already being proficient while the other is trying it for the first time.
Make Time Together a Priority
The only way that trying new things together can help your relationship is to make these adventures a priority. This may mean scheduling some aspects, such as a babysitter for your kids or saving for a vacation, in advance.
In cases where it will be quite some time before you will be able to take on your new experience, consider making the planning phase part of the fun. Take time to plan your trips and experiences together, actively discuss what you are excited to do, and listen to your partner about the things that have them most interested. Before you know it, the planning will be over and you will be on your way to trying something new with the person you love.